3/05/2012

Intercultural Communication


The Best Way to Handle Intercultural Miscommunication
                                                    --Looking back upon my first year in Singapore
S
ingapore is really a beautiful country. The beauty of Singapore is reflected by not only its clean environment, but also many good characters of Singaporean. Six years ago when I reached Singapore for the first time, I was isolated by the traditional Chinese cultures. Those Chinese traditions were not generally accepted, especially by those non-Chinese race students. This inevitably led to misunderstandings and unnecessary quarreling. Fortunately, thanks to our local mentor’s tireless and earnest advices, the misunderstanding did not last long :) The followings are some fragments of my first year’s life in Singapore.
When I came to Victoria School for the first time six years ago, everything was new and very unusual for me. For the first week I could never understand what people expected from me. The style of living was absolutely dissimilar. To be honest, I had never experienced such a hot weather. The environment of study was also quite different. Instead of studying at school for a whole day, school was over at 2pm every day. Such a light study schedule made me really anxious about my O-level performance in 2 years later. I was confusing what MOE expected from my academic results. Some of my friends even thought that MOE deliberately allocated such easy study plan for us and would suspend our scholarship in two years. One of my friends, also from China, seriously complained about the study schedule and criticized the educational system in Singapore to our mentors. To our surprise, our mentors did not quarrel with us directly. He told us the importance of CCAs (Co-curricular activities) and showed us various trophies achieved by different CCA groups. Unlike China, CCA results were counted in our O-level results. After his conversation, our argument petered out.
Another barrier is the language problems. Because of lack of equivalences in vocabulary, it generally produced the difficulties in the translation. Six years ago when our English skills were quite poor, we even could not distinguish the formal and informal words and chose the correct tone. As a result, this led to numerous misunderstanding in our conservation, especially with some other scholars from Vietnam and Indian. Once my friend had seriously quarreled with another scholar, the reason was that he used some sensitive and offensive words which I could not remember. At that time, he had absolutely no meaning of offense. He simply did not come up with an appropriate word to express his opinion. Feeling to be discriminated, the Indian scholar seriously blamed my friend. The quarrel quieted down when our mentor came and translated our words in a proper way.
Therefore, the best way to handle intercultural misunderstanding is to consider others before self. The feelings would be completely different when you see from other’s viewpoint. Last but not least, thank to those who have ever helped me.
Thank you.---Mr Ang, Mr Low, Mr Wang, Mr Wong, Mdm Lim, Mdm Wong and ….. :)

2/12/2012

Resume


2 February 2011

Lin Han (Mr.)
Clementi Ave 4
Block 305 #09-395
Singapore 120305
Mobile: (+65) 81426958

Risk Management Institute
National University of Singapore
21 Heng Mui Keng Terrace, Level 4
Singapore 119613

Dear Ms Long

Application for Production Team Internship

As a year two student majoring in quantitative finance, I have a dream to be a financial officer in the banking industry in the future. Knowing that there is an open internship position in the Risk Management Institute, I feel so attracted and I want to seize this excellent opportunity to enrich my mind and gain exposure to new and exciting areas of research.

As a mature undergraduate, I care more about a broad perspective about the financial industry rather than the formulas and theories taught in the textbook. By reading the history of financial industry, I am constantly training my mind to think critically in an ordered fashion and to derive conclusions. By reading the financial events in the newspaper, I have a deep understanding about the links between time, risk and money.

This is my first time to participate in an internship. It is true that the first step is really a challenge for me. However, my enthusiasm for challenges and my ambition for success will never change. They drive me forward, and shape my heart with confidence and optimism. Additionally, being confident about my academic study, I will have enough time for the job during the next semester.

The internship is a very prestigious program, and I will be honored to be given the chance to participate in it. I sincerely yearn to contribute to the Risk Management Institute, and to benefit from the vast experience that it has to offer.

Yours sincerely

Lin Han

Lin Han
Clementi Ave 4
Block 305 #09-395
Singapore 120305
Cell phone: 0065-81426958

EDUCATION
August 2010-present:
Major in Quantitative Finance
Second major in Statistics
National University of Singapore (NUS)
Faculty of Science
Cumulative Average Point (CAP): 4.78/5
January 2008- December 2009:
Victoria Junior College (VJC)
AWARDS & HONORS
January 2011:
Dean’s List (Faculty of Science)
December 2009:
     A-level Certificate
May 2008-June 2008:
2nd place, National Robotics Competition
May 2008:
Distinction, Australian Mathematics Competition
WORKING EXPERIENCE
August 2010-present:
Part-time tutor (mathematics, physics, computing, violin)
March 2010-August 2010:
Part-time staff at Raffles Hotel, Singapore
EXTRA-CURRICULAR ACTIVITIES
January 2008-December 2009:
VJC Strings club
January 2008-December 2009:
VJC Robotics club
IT SKILLS
Programming language in C and C++
Microsoft Office (Word, Excel, PowerPoint)
Matlab
Maple

1/29/2012

Interpersonal conflict-"Judas?"


The following is a hypothetical story that I was written in the first person narration.

Before entering the Junior College, I knew a pretty girl and fell in love with her. I did believe that she was an essential part of my life. However, there was a secret that I had never told her and never planned to tell her. That was my addiction to alcohol. Sometimes, I even believed that alcohol was as importance as my girlfriend. I did not want to lose either of them. Thus, I enjoined my roommates sincerely to secrecy. However, when I entered the Junior College, heavy academic workload and tight schedule made me feel so stressful that I drunk much to relieve my pressure. As I drunk harder and harder, the trouble became more and more serious.

The conflict arose when my girlfriend received a call from my roommates informing her that they were extremely worried about my well-being in the hostel, because I had drunk too much every day. My girlfriend immediately called me and confronted me about this issue. She asked me what was going on and whether the statement was true. I suddenly realized that it might be my roommates who betrayed me. I replied to my girlfriend in straight denial. After I spoke with her, her tones told me that she did not believe me. She implied that she should not choose a drunkard as her life partner. I was livid, and hung up the phone up on her.

Immediately after talking with my girlfriend, I called my roommates to find out the reason for this. My roommates explained to me that they had been watching me use more and more alcohol, and they said they saw a severe change in my attitude. They wished some sentences from my girlfriend might change my life style. Once again I was infuriated, and hung up on my roommates.

I felt betrayed, how my roommates went parties with me, then turned around and told my girlfriend that I had an alcohol addiction. Since two days, I had avoided all phone calls from my roommates. Finally on the third day, I met my roommates in the meeting room. My roommates explained to me that they had spoken with girlfriend again. I did not pay attention to their explanation and blamed them as Judas. In the next semester, I moved to another hostel and never connected with my roommates since then.

Actually, in my view, communication behaviors are essential in solving interpersonal conflict. In such a situation, since I felt betrayed by some of my best friends, my behaviors were extremely aggressive. There is no denying that being offensive is never a good way for problem solving. So, could you figure out some of my aggressive behaviors during this interpersonal conflict between me and my roommates?

1/22/2012

Effective Communication Skills-Week 2


Failure does not mean you are a failure.
It does mean you have not succeeded yet.
-----------------------------------------------My interview experience for Yale University

Last semester, I applied an exchange program to Yale university to experience a new life style in the United States. I really made an effort in preparing my interviews including the history of Yale University and their education format. However, I failed seriously in the second round of interview. The main reason for my failure, in my view, was that I completely ignored the feelings of the interviewer. The differences in culture was a barrier between the western professors and me. However, I did not realize the barrier at that time and never tried to remove it during the interview. One of the interviewer, who might be from Yale University, always gave me a puzzled look while I was talking about my philosophy. When I saw his confused facial expression, I talked more about the traditional Chinese thinking styles and belief systems to give him a well rounded answer. There is no doubt that these additional words completely produced the opposite effects. As a result, my application to Yale University was rejected directly.

Well, failure does not mean that I should give up; however, it means that I should try harder. Actually, failure was really a positive experience which made me realize the importance of communication skills. That is the main motivation for me to take this module (ES2007). Some concepts and skills introduced in this module such as communication models and channels, communication across cultures will be beneficial for my future study and work. As a year two student majoring in quantitative finance, I am certain there will be many interview opportunities in the future. Hopefully, I will not be a loser next time.

Happy lunar new years to all readers.